Death and Dying

The article was sent to me by a friend who had been to our home for a very insightful conversation with other friends. The conversation eventually led to the subject of death and dying- a subject that isn’t often talked about but is one in which we “must” engage. Since that time, we’ve made a special date with our friends to continue this conversation and to explore this very important topic in our lives.

We look at the process of dying and the process of mourning as farewells – which they are, in a way. After all, death means saying goodbye to the physical part of our beings. It is the end of a journey, and it is often most challenging to those who are left behind.

I have been a psychologist for almost four decades. There have been several occasions in my professional life when I have dealt with death closely. I have also experienced the loss of both of my parents; and the loss of a dear mentor. They have all been painful, of course: every death of a loved one leaves a big blank space in our lives. However, these losses were also profoundly spiritual events that have transformed me for the better – death is, after all, one of the greatest ‘mysteries’ of the human experience. When we come in contact with death, everything changes because we see the world through different eyes.

Day of the Dead is one of the most beautiful celebrations in Mexico, and it is certainly the most poignant and spiritual. To witness the care, love, patience and commitment most Mexicans have with their long-gone ancestors never ceases to amaze me. It is certainly so unique and moving; and we are blessed to have the opportunity to witness it and/or even take part in it.