A Note From Dr. Beverly Nelson, Director

How often do you clearly express (either verbally or in writing) what you want or need?

It looks like a simple and perhaps irrelevant question. However, I assure you: it is anything but. Whether because we’re taught to be respectful and careful with our tone and our words – especially in business situations -; or because we don’t want to appear demanding or self-centered, it’s not very often that we are clear with others about what we want.

The other day, somebody told me that there is a Mexican saying: “Al que no habla, Dios no lo oye”. This can be roughly translated as “He who does not speak, is not heard by God”. It’s impressive how true and valid these popular sayings are, in each and every culture, and Mexicans are very wise indeed. If we do not dare speak our minds and clearly express our wishes or requests, how can we expect to be ‘heard’?

There is nothing wrong with being clear and direct, and none of these qualities – because they are qualities – stand for rudeness. It is always so vital to be clear with our wishes and requests, because who will take care of us, if not ourselves? Those of us who are fortunate enough to have a strong, loving network of friends and family, and even our staff, often rely on them to watch for us and act in our best interest. While this is a blessing, we must always remember that we are responsible for ourselves, that we are our best ambassador to the world and that we are entitled to ask for what we want.

When was the last time you asked for what you want?

How often do you clearly express what you wish?

I’m listening, as always. Have a lovely Sunday and a fabulous week!