This photo of a cactus at our home is the result of a recent compromise that my husband, Michael, and I have made. This compromise is just one of many that we have made throughout the years of our being together and I feel that it’s a great example of how important these compromises can be.
Here’s what happened…. Michael says, “I want to cut down that cactus tree because it’s blocking our view of the lake”. I say, “but, it’s a living tree and I don’t want to cut it down”. You can imagine the back and forth discussion! Then, we both decided that this was, yet, another time to compromise. We brainstormed and came up with the idea to cut it half way down and prepare the center for a bird bath! It’s beautiful, alive, the birds love it and the view is incredible.
Do you compromise in your relationships? Is this always the path to take when there is a disagreement? Well, I would say that it’s an important part of all of our relationships and a skill that is important to learn in order to have a successful, harmonious life. In other words, I’ve learned that I cannot be in a relationship strictly on my own terms. Darn. It just doesn’t work, or at least work in a healthy way.
At the same time, I’ve learned that you can’t compromise everything and it’s important to know when to be flexible and when to take a stand. There are some things that we shouldn’t let go of, no matter how much someone else might want you to (however, I believe that if someone is conscious and healthy, they wouldn’t ask you to). Here are five of those situations in which it’s important to never compromise in any relationship that we have.
1. Our Self-Esteem
You should never let someone influence you in a way that makes you feel that you’re not enough or that you should give up the essence of who you are. And, we should never “change” ourselves (that’s your doing) to fit the image that someone else wants you to fit, if it’s not in integrity with yourself.
You should always be treated with respect and if you’re not being treated that way, then it’s not something you have to tolerate.
3. Core Beliefs and Values
Not everyone will have the same core beliefs and values as you and that’s okay. If you differ on these; it’s possible that you could have healthy, informed discussions. However, if your beliefs and values are extremely different (diametrically opposed) or your partner or partners are insisting that you change yours, then it’s important to evaluate what matters most to you and take a stand for that. Believe in yourself!
4. Your Dreams
You are entitled to your healthy dreams for the future. If someone in one of your relationships tries to impede these dreams or doesn’t support you in following them; then it’s time to take a stand.
5. Relationship with Your Friends and Family
Sometimes your relationships with your friends and family can be toxic. And, your partner or other close friends may give you feedback about this. Listen. However, if your partner or other close friends are insisting that you “drop” your other healthy relationships for the sake of spending more time with them or because they might not “like” them, then it’s time to take a stand!
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Blessings on your journey, Beverly