A Note From Dr. Beverly Nelson, Director
How many times a day do we make assumptions?
Assumptions are usually motivated by experience. For example, we assume that the sun will rise every morning because it has done so every day of our lives…so far! We assume that certain task will require “X” amount of time for us to complete, especially if we have performed such tasks before. These assumptions have a practical motivation and all of us make them on a daily basis. They are ‘safe’.
So, when do assumptions become risky or – even worse – dangerous?
When we assume that a person’s words or actions automatically ‘imply’ certain motivations or consequences, we are treading very perilous grounds. Taking a conduct or purpose for granted almost always leads to disappointment, or in many cases, to anger. How many communication mishaps are the product of someone making an assumption? We all know that bad communication leads to stress and conflict – none of us want to deal with that! Fortunately, there is one solution that will help you not make this kind of assumptions:
ACT FROM LOVE
When we speak and act from a place of love and understanding, things will go well. It may seem like magic or ‘woo-woo’, but it’s not. Think about it: when we are in a loving state of mind and being, everything we do or say is rooted in transparency and good intentions. We get our message across with clarity, and it also resonates in others, in the same loving way.
Do you act from love? If so, what results have you seen? I’m listening!